I have to ask myself "Is this how you see us? Is this what you want us to be?" And then I say "Fuck that!" Because I am not a sexual object.

I’m not sure you’re understanding the concept of “fantasy.” While it is true that many guys are going to have sexist fantasies, it not true that most or even many of those guy would like those to be fulfilled. Just as the romance novelists and buyers of romance novels appear to have fantasies about being kidnapped by pirates but they don’t really want that to happen in real life, so too might some guys think the tentacle thing is sexy, but they certainly wouldn’t want women to be raped by octopi from outer space. Seriously, do the guys you know seem like they want to have women raped by aliens? If so, may I suggest that you hang out with different guys?

Also, you might want to note that while you are not an object, the ink on the page is. While you are making the case that men are objectifying women, I think it might be closer to the truth to say that you are personifying objects.

Finally, please note that there is no connection between erotica/porn and an increase the number or rapes. You can see the overwhelming evidence here:

http://www.porn-report.com/403-porn-social-and-behavioral-science-research.htm